Monthly Archive for April, 2009

Turning Frustration into Flexibility

“So often we wait for the climate and conditions in life to be perfect before we feel safe enough to step forward, trust, and be our authentic selves. What we don’t realize is that in order to create the ideal climate we are waiting for, we must be authentic first.” - Sonia Choquette

With all of this Hullabaloo circulating in the press and the internet about how horrible the world is, do you feel it would be beneficial to you to understand how to take those images and feelings and make them work for you insteadof against you?

If the answer is “Yes” (and I know it is) then join me tonight as I’ll be covering a simple process tonight in the Performance Zone at 10:30 PM Eastern time. You can participate by dialing in to:

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Tonight’s topic - “Turning Frustration into Flexibility

Show Up, Suit Up & Step Up!

The best is yet to come,

David Martin
505.821.0157
info@empowermax.com

Opposites Are Very Real

“Sooner or later; everyone sits down to a banquet of consequences.” – Robert Louis Stevenson

Today we live in a microwave society, at least here in the states. Canada is not far behind and many other emerging nations (read burgeoning economies) are following along the lead set by the “Gotta have it now!” people.

Keep this in mind. There is always a consequence to whatever action you take.

The possibilities are endless and dependent on actions etc, so I am not going to make specific statements as to what will or will not happen. That’s for another email.

But you can’t have something for nothing. There is an opposite action – always.

For you academic types, for every action there is equal and opposite reaction.

For the Zen philosophers it’s called the duality of nature; the Yin and the Yang.

You know positive/negative, happiness/sadness, good/bad, day time/night time, winter/summer, black/white; all the usual suspects apply when it comes to examples of opposites.

So when you make a decision in your life, it either moves you closer to your goal or it doesn’t. It’s that simple. No Virginia, there aren’t any that do both.

There are also consequences, both positive and negative to our decisions. These consequences, although at times barely perceptible, are very, very real.

Sometimes, because we live in the aforementioned microwave society, people tend to ignore the consequences of their decisions. Sometimes because they don’t appear until down the road, sometimes it’s because they seem small. But it will have an effect, not always pleasing.

It’s just getting what they want with little or no regard for the effects.

Not a good strategy.

Does this mean that you don’t make decisions quickly? Not at all, it means that if you make decisions quickly you’ve done so with consideration.

What does that mean? Consideration?

It simply means you’ve looked at the possible outcomes both good and bad, positive and negative, of your actions. And remember, there is always an outcome, always.

Remember, we’re coming into a time when the world is becoming a very small place. Technology allows us to do business in multiple languages simultaneously at light speed, to travel in hours to anywhere in the world, obtain information about virtually anything we require immediately.

And, the rest of the world is here to stay in this economy of the new millennium. Latin America & Asia most importantly in my opinion.

So you can choose to be all or choose to be part. You can choose to create your future in advance or you can choose to allow someone else to create it for you. You can choose to put all you have into all you do, or you can choose not to.

Each has their own set of consequences and their own set of rewards.

So, here’s a choice for you. Choose to design four vision and get started on your better future. You can make it your gift to yourself.

The best is yet to come!

David Martin
505.821.0157
info@empowermax.com

When You Talk to Yourself…

“If you had a friend who talked to you like you sometimes talk to yourself, would you continue to hang around with that person?” - Rob Bremer

Great point in Mr. Bremer’s quotation, n’est pas?

Directing your self-talk is an important part of your pursuit of excellence.

Why? Because you communicate more with yourself throughout each and everyday than you do anyone or anything else – computer/internet included.

One of the main emphases in todays communication training is that we only communicate 7% through the words we use, 38% via tonality, tempo, pitch etc and 55% through body language. That’s true – when communicating with others.

However the words we say to ourselves are taken literally, 100%, no interpretation whatsoever. Our brain doesn’t try to figure out what we meant. It (the brain) processes our words directly.

Here’s a simple example: when someone asks us, “How’re you doing?” and we respond, “Not bad.” a few things occur.

First, the message transmitted to the person asking the question is dependent on the factors mentioned above. Could be good, could be otherwise.  Next, and more importantly to the person responding, “Not bad,” is the message sent to the 70 trillion cells in the body. The message is that the person is bad, just not overly bad.

In other words the cellular email blast to your army of 100 trillion cells contains negative programming that will not move you in the direction you desire. Combined with emotional intensity the results can be disastrous.

Now, the good news is that if it can work against you, it can also work for you.

Pay attention for to your language for the next 30 days. If you catch yourself using disempowering language, stop, take a deep breath, say “Cancel”, and then make an empowering statement. The easy way to determine what would be an empowering statement is simply the opposite of the disempowering one.

It’s your communication with yourself that is the platform from which you can launch major changes in your life immediately.

It’s your life, isn’t it worth living on your terms?

The best is yet to come!

David Martin
505.821.0157
info@empowermax.com